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Entropy: A Practical Model for Intentional Living

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Entropy: A Practical Model for Intentional Living

Murphy’s law
Anything that can go wrong will go wrong

The heuristic has been popularized through movies like Interstellar. Yet what are we actually implying when we state that what is wrong is bound to occur? The hard sciences have discovered a useful way of measuring randomness that is particularly pertinent to intentionally living as a mental model for considering how disorder naturally arises.

It is the force that leads to many of the problems in our universe and governs a majority of your daily choices; this is Entropy.

What is Entropy?

Entropy is a commonly used in science as a measurement of disorder. In physics, entropy is thought of as a degree of disorder within a given system. The second law of thermodynamics states that the entropy of an isolated system never decreases, so when we consider what that means for living organisms in a finite resource environment like ourselves, reality as we understand it is always treading towards complexity.

A Day at the Beach

More Simply, we can think about entropy using the following analogy:

Imagine you are at the beach and you decide to make a sand castle. By organizing millions of grains of sand into an ordered structure. Your sandcastle ends up being this wonderful kingdom that you virtually spend the whole day building—you are very proud of your creation. Now picture that a windstorm arises and blows your magnificent creation down like it’s the holy war; you have now experienced entropy in its analogous form.

We originally have something that is orderly and fixed (Sand kingdom) and forces come along (wind) and turn the thing into a disorganized mess.

Here is a neat video that gave me the idea to explain entropy this way:

So What?

With the model of entropy, we can organize our lives with the disorder in mind. In other words, we intentionally create systems that are easily maintainable given the inevitable nature of things constantly treading towards a disordered state.

It is our expansion of energy or effort that combats entropy. So the model can act as a reminder that effort is mandatory if we are to withstand the pull towards disorganization.

For example, consider relationships.

Moving in together, dealing with parents, sharing money, conflicting ideologies, you get my point. Many areas of conflict are bound to arise just simply from attempting to create an organized state (a partnership) in a world skwed to promt chaos.

If we are not diligent in applying structure in our relationships, then entropy will take its course.

Entropic Intentions

We need to be effortful when living intentionally for if we set up ways of living with zero effort for maintenance, then in due time systems will cease to exist. And soon, we are wasting our most valuable resources (time and attention) on starting again from not having vigilantly observed the model of entropy.

So yes lives may be bound to wrong, though it is not anyone's fault, it is merely the reality as it is. Accept this, and you are one step closer towards living intentionally. 

Remember we will all decay and that’s okay, but how will you use today?


My Motto: Today is the best day of my life

I treat every day as the best day of my life because no matter the praise, disappointment, obstacles, or success I know that I am doing everything that is in my control to live to the standards of my greatest self.

How? It all starts with my 5 habits. Find out more here.

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10 Days of Silence: Vipassana Meditation Revisited

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10 Days of Silence: Vipassana Meditation Revisited

This isn’t like my other posts.

Trying to explain terms that are in nature pre-symbolic is tough. A lot of what I experienced at my meditation retreat is not yet easily put into words, for words do not do justice to the sweeping stress that was put on my body and psyche during yet another 10 days in silence.

If you don’t know what a 10-day meditation retreat consists of, I recommend you go read my pieces on Vipassana before venturing any further as I am sure this will deepen the practical nature of my notes.

Vipassana Meditation: What Ten days of Silence Can Do

Vipassana Meditation: How to Prepare for a Silent Retreat

Here are some notes I scrambled to write and annotate. I built upon a few of the takeaways and hope that writing this helps both you and me better understand what intellectual games I seem to be playing while I was strengthening my abilities to practice Vipassana meditation.

This is a fairly raw post that I attempted to edit minimally as to preserve the message.

Directly experiencing The Law of Nature

Things are as such that everything that arises is bound to pass.

Sure I can read that statement above and think that it makes sense, but that does not help me see the deep truth behind what it is saying.

Does a child that is told not to touch the hot stove just stop reaching out? No! He reaches out and finds out through his experience the meaning of the statement.
Over the last two weeks in silence, I touched the flame.

I sat in silence in a pitch black meditation cell saw viscerally the changing of each sensation as it arises. Sensations can be appraised along a great spectrum—from pain to pleasure—yet what we make of a sensation is disillusion.

Out of habit, we assume that this always means that, X means Y, and cause yields effect; this assessment is dangerous. Pain in my legs is only accentuated from the mental categorization that this sensation is something that is harmful.

But if we are patient and are diligent about not playing a game of categorizing reactively to our senses, we free ourselves from the additional misery.
Easier said than done of course. Or perhaps that is just the opposite.

Well if the validity of any statements can only ever be stress tested through each of our subjective experiences. Then I need to experience a sensation, not I.D. it and notice how the law of nature runs its course—the sensation arises and passes away.

The extension of the law of nature in my subjective experience

After a few days of experiencing the arising and passing of all the habits I created to pleasure or harm myself—all of which just being reactions of one or another to a pattern. I began to see the impermanence of even the most mundane things all around the center.

Though one case resonated with me more than any other; the flower.

During my first few days at the compound, I would walk past the same flower on my way to breakfast. I would watch as the simple bud each day grew and grew, moving with its environment, becoming what it was exposed to—in a lot of ways this flower following the same rules as me. But just as the flower bloomed, I saw the petals began to fall, and day by day the flower became ill–ultimately dying toward the end of my retreat.

Like this flower, I have bloomed, and as this flower, I will die.

The cycle of birth and decay could not be any clearer. Coupled with my training, watching this flowers whole life cycle was a moving experience. Life like the flower is so beautiful, so fascinating, but the decay, rotting, and dying is no less beautiful.

It’s the entirety of a living creatures experience that draws us to weigh one portion over another as though the reality is more somehow more pivotal in some cases over others. Yet, without the other side, we would never be able to make such an assessment; it’s all important. So sure categorize, but during my retreat, I learned to respect each part of the experience.

People

The community of people curious as to what is going on inside their skulls is by far the most powerful resource that you can get from the retreat–barring the actual technique of course (Though I dare to even say that it matches the meditation itself). The meditation is fueled by the power of the collective influence.
We are social beings, and habit formation only ever prospers in environments where the foundation is grounded in things that align with the habit. The collective at these retreats are just that. From the moment we arrive at the compound its talk of this life journey or that life journey, and after the ten-day silence breaks, the talks are full of trust, love and, compassion.

Everyone Trusts. We trust that we all just underwent something that was special in its own way to all of us, yet its broader meaning, it made us strive to see what we can give, and how can we give more. When we are filled with what we need—the lesson we gain from finding meaning within ourselves—then we only want to give because everything left is just a gift.

If we can find internal peace, then what really else do you need? It’s all extra! Free prizes of life to be appreciated and shared.

So to touch back on how it relates to people, with everyone coming to the realization that all is found within, it becomes a giving fest that some have never thought was ever feasible. People start sharing their deepest desires, cravings, aversions, and hopes, out of compassion that what they have experienced that be of some value to another—and all this before we even knew each other’s names!!

This is the start.

I have only just started really diving into the lessons from my time in the Dharma hall. Gradually I will continue to deconstruct what introspective work coupled with my meditation has done to create an intentional life for me. Feel free to send me your meditative experiences as I would love to challenge you to dive deeper into explaining to yourself how a practice has made you more susceptive to a life with purpose.


My Motto: Today is the best day of my life

I treat every day as the best day of my life because no matter the praise, disappointment, obstacles, or success I know that I am doing everything that is in my control to live to the standards of my greatest self.

How? It all starts with my 5 habits. Find out more here.

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“The Order of Things” Book Review: By Mitch Nickerson

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Here I’m going to give a brief overview of a rather puzzling book, The Order of Things, or as titled in French “Les Mots et Les Choses”. Michel Foucault left us this work in 1966 which established himself as one of the great French thinkers of the twentieth century and added to the many structuralist works of the era.

However, in order to dive in, it is necessary that we have an understanding of the term “episteme”. Foucault uses the term “episteme” as a way to describe the very structure of human thought which is present at any given time. He writes that “in any given culture and at any given moment, there is always only one episteme that defines the conditions of possibility of all knowledge, whether expressed in a theory or silently invested in a practice.”

One example I came across to give you an idea of this would be to imagine that you are getting ready to go to work, class, or to run some errands and without even really thinking you put on your pants, shirt whatever else and head out on your way.

See that is the example right there, without even thinking about doing otherwise (at least in these normal everyday examples) you put on these articles of clothing, then you go out and to do these things.

For the majority of us, we would never think of foregoing clothes before heading out for the day and that there is the power of structures of human which are prevalent in our lives at any given time. This is a surface level example to put in light the idea he’s talking about. It goes much, much deeper than that though, as these distinct “epistemes” have always had a profound impact on human thought down to the very way our sciences have been structured to dictate what is acceptable and true.

Three Clear Epistemes

Foucault uses the studies of linguistics, biology, and economics and traces the progression of each from a few hundred years ago up to the present day in an attempt to argue that there have been three clear epistemes since the Renaissance.

Three clear epistemes, three clear eras of human thought.

He makes these arguments to build up to the idea that our concept of “man”, as we understand this conscious observer in the present day, is really a modern invention made possible by the progression of the way we interpret the world around us.

This book, for me at least, was extremely challenging and took awhile to finish because of how deep and dense every page is. This certainly is not a read for the faint-hearted but I will do my best to explain some of the concepts as I have understood them in the hopes that these words give you the inspiration to be curious with Foucault’s own.

Let’s see where it goes.

Resemblance As a Constructive Role

He starts off by talking about how “resemblance played a constructive role in the knowledge of Western culture” up to the sixteenth century. This resemblance is built upon four ideas: convenientia, aemulatio, analogy, and sympathies. It is too much to go too in depth into these terms but note that convenientia “denotes the adjacency of places more strongly than it does similitude. Those things are ‘convenient’ which come sufficiently close to one another to be in juxtaposition; their edges touch, their fringes intermingle, the extremity of the one also denotes the beginning of the other.” Think of it as the “resemblance connected with space in the form of a graduated scale of proximity.”

Which brings us to aemulatio and that concept can be described as “a sort of ‘convenience’ that has been freed from the law of place and is able to function, without motion, from a distance…for emulation is a sort of twinship existing in things; it arises from a fold in being, the two sides of which stand immediately opposite to one another.” Analogy, Foucault writes, is “convenientia and aumulatio superimposed… its power is immense, for the similitudes of which it treats are not the visible, substantial ones between things themselves; they need only be the more subtle resemblances of relations”.

The final piece of his resemblance pie is sympathies which are a bit different as “here, no path has been determined in advance, no distance laid down, no links prescribed. Sympathy plays through the depths of the universe in a free state… sympathy is an instance of the Same so strong and so insistent that it will not rest content to be merely one of the forms of likeness; it has the dangerous power of assimilating, of rendering things identical to one another, of mingling them, of causing their individuality to disappear—and thus of rendering them foreign to what they were before.” Sympathy also has its alter ego here, antipathy, so if “sympathy” is the resemblance force bringing things together, “antipathy” is the opposite “…maintaining the isolation of things and preventing their assimilation; it encloses every species within its impenetrable difference and its propensity to continue being what it is.”

Okay, whew, these concepts are a lot but I’d recommend you to dwell on each of them and how they might act in different situations of resemblance. These four similitudes “tell us what the paths of similitude are and the directions they take”. And see, this is only a few pages in to Foucault’s argument after an extensive analysis of Las Meninas, so, dense may even be an understatement as this man’s mind goes H.A.M.

However, after a lengthy analysis on signs and the way they work with things we had identified through resemblances (i.e. through the similitudes), he makes the point that “the world is covered with signs that must be deciphered, and those signs which reveal resemblances and affinities, are themselves no more than forms of similitude. To know must, therefore, be to interpret: to find a way from the visible mark to that which is being said by it and which, without that mark, would lie like unspoken speech, dormant within things.”

Without much more elaboration, this is a significant point he is making in his work that up to the sixteenth century (arguably from The Renaissance) that interpretation is a key component of this first episteme which Foucault makes his case for.

Comparison of Measurement and of Order

Moving into the seventeenth century, Foucault draws conclusions that this resemblance themed moved into comparison which he says only two forms exist, namely “the comparison of measurement and that of order.” We’re very familiar with that comparison of measurement because we utilize these forms of thought all the time and it has led to the mathematization of many domains of our curiosity.

Order isn’t as familiar, though we’re certainly aware of its presence but Foucault writes “one cannot know the order of things ‘in their isolated nature’, but by discovering that which is the simplest, then that which is next simplest, one can progress inevitably to the most complex things of all.” And so, we begin to see this next era of the ways humans structured knowledge, especially as scientific order and the scientific method really begin to develop.

See these structures are rather built-up upon another so as in this shift, mere ‘resemblance’ is not enough and now must be subjected to these new ‘comparisons’ which help to close the vastness of possibilities when considering, well anything. Foucault writes “this relation to Order is as essential to the Classical age as the relation to Interpretation was to the Renaissance.” The book continues on to follow the progression of linguistics, biology, and economics over time to articulate the way in which the various epistemes impacted their development.

Unfortunately, as these get tricky and this is just a general overview, I must keep brevity in mind and save those explorations for part two which I hope to have the opportunity to bring to you in the near future. For now, however, let’s wrap up this lengthy exploration with some of Foucault’s final ideas which I hope will paint a reasonable picture of the point he’s attempting to make.

Final Thoughts: Excerpts From the Book

After some time trying to find a way to summarize two excerpts, it appears the best way for me to present the final bit of this overview will be two (long-winded) quotes directly from the book so here we go:

“the functions of ‘nature’ and ‘human nature’ are in opposition to one another, term by term, in the Classical episteme: nature, through the action of real and disordered juxtaposition, causes difference to appear in the ordered continuity of beings; human nature causes the identical to appear in the disordered chain of representations, and does so by the action of a display of images. The one implies the fragmentation of a history in order to constitute actual landscapes; the other implies the comparison of non-actual elements which destroy the fabric of a chronological sequence…they act, in fact upon identical elements;  both reveal against the background of an uninterrupted fabric the possibility of a general analysis which makes possible the distribution of isolable identities and visible differences over a tabulated space and in an ordered sequence. But they cannot succeed in doing this without each other, and it is there that the communication between them occurs.”

Ahah, this leads to, in my opinion, a significant declaration for the argument Foucault wishes to make where he writes:

“this establishing of communication between nature and human nature on the basis of two opposite but complementary functions – since neither can take place without the other – carries with it broad theoretical consequences. For Classical thought, man does not occupy a place in nature through the intermediary of the regional, limited, specific ‘nature’ that is granted to him, as to all other beings, as a birthright. If human nature is interwoven with nature, it is by the mechanisms of knowledge and by their functioning; or rather, in the general arrangement of the Classical episteme, nature, human nature, and their relations, are definite and predictable functional moments. And man, as a primary reality with his own density, as the difficult object and sovereign subject of all possible knowledge, has no place in it. The modern themes of an individual who lives, speaks, and works in accordance with the laws of an economics, a philology, and a biology, but who also, by a sort of internal torsion and overlapping, has acquired the right, through the interplay of those very laws, to know them and to subject them to total clarification – all these themes so familiar to us today and linked to the existence of the ‘human sciences’ are excluded by Classical though: it was not possible at that time that there should arise, on the boundary of the world, the strange stature of a being whose nature (that which determines it, contains it, and has traversed it from the beginning of time) is to know nature, and itself, in consequence, as a natural being.”

This is a rather complex work and much of it is difficult to summarize concisely as you are now well aware, so it is my hope that I have at least sparked some interest in Foucault’s work The Order of Things or at the very least some other works on structuralism which are very interesting as well. As I mentioned, it is my intention to go more in-depth with these specific ideas and examples to paint a more detailed picture of this work but until that time, I thank you for your attention. If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at mitchnick215@gmail.com and I will do my best to answer any inquiries with book in hand. Live long and Prosper.

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Stop Being Busy: Three Distinctions Between The Busy And Productive

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Stop Being Busy: Three Distinctions Between The Busy And Productive

“Busy is a decision.”

– Debbie Millman

James is a college student who prides himself on his busy schedule. From the moment he wakes up in the morning, to the moment his head hits the pillow, James is constantly working. Lecture, clubs, his job, or homework, James is in a constant state of doing.

Jessica—also a college student—sleeps in on the weekends and yet, strangely enough, attends lecture, clubs, her job, and does her homework all the while enjoying her hobbies like yoga and painting.

But listen to how they describe themselves:

James: I am stressed the fuck out, I never have time to myself, but everyone expects me to perform so how could I not be busy?

Jessica: Sure I have things to do, but I am pretty relaxed on most days. I do what I need to do.

Here we have two decisions living very similar lives yet if you take a look at the mindset, the level of life satisfaction greatly differs. Why?

What is productive and what is busy?

An important distinction needs to be made between when we are busy and when we are productive. Nowadays especially, the two terms seem to be experienced and used the same, but couldn’t be any more different. Here are two common definitions of the terms

Busy “having a great deal to do.”

Productive “achieving or producing a significant amount or result.”

The issue is that far too many people are confusing the two, and it’s causing them to live their lives constantly doing stuff while not accomplishing anything. Today I’ll go through three chief distinctions that will help you identify whether you’re busy or productive.

Productive people seek out the big wins | Busy people set too many goals at a time

Aim starts where goals begin.

Being busy lacks a key characteristic that those whom are productive have; aim.

Productivity is goal driven. Without an aim you may find yourself doing a lot, but a whole lot of nothing. You need an aim to be productive, without it, you’re only producing a significant amount of nothing. You can do 100 things today, but if none of them actually led to real results, what’s the point? When you hone in on what is most important—your aim—you can make substantial progress.

For example, when I first started reading for growth, I was so excited about reading that I would read a little of one book, and little of another, and another. Sooner or later I was reading a little of over 5 books.

I don’t remember much from those books.

But when I chose a single book and prioritized reading it, I started to remember the lessons I learned and even started to read more books.

If you would like to start being more productive, the first step is to find out what would be considered the highest priority task—your personal big win.

We can have big wins of the day, week, and year. Your big win is the single task that if accomplished gives you the immediate satisfaction of having completed it.

Productive people prioritize this big win before everything. Each day they remind themselves what the big win is and they do not become distracted by all the other tasks.

Productive People Calculate Before Saying Yes | Busy People Say Yes To Everything

Overbooked and overwhelmed, the busy person is constantly working because they just don’t say no.

They forget it’s not about how much you do, it’s about how valuable what you do is.

To produce significant results, you need to treat your time like the finite resource that it truly is. Before saying yes, ask yourself, is this worth my time? When you limit what you spend your time on, growth becomes possible in the remainder.

Having less in your life means you have more time, attention, and focus towards the things that matter. Take your work space for example.

Where you work makes a huge change in how you work.

Leveraging your environment to work for you.

In the busy notice the mess of sensor stimuli available that steal your attention. When the mind wanders it uses whatever is available to it to perpetuate the train of thought. Distraction after distraction the busy person is unconsciously agreeing—saying yes—to more, which ultimately lead to less.

Personally, this has changed my life. As a minimalist, I chose to ditch a majority of my material belongings leaving space to own only what I love.

Once I realized I could do the same with my time, I started to leverage my energy towards only the things I love. By removing the things that stole my time and attention, I am now able to cultivate only my priorities.

It’s easy to believe that doing more will lead to better results. But go ahead and try doing less—you’ll be happily surprised.

Productive People Set Unrealistic Deadlines | Busy People Approach Deadlines As They Come

Busy people do not leave space for uncertainty.

But how about if the unrealistic—deadlines set ahead of time—deadlines productive people set allow for more to get done in shorter periods of time.

"Work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion"

This idea is Parkinson's Law. It explains why unrealistic deadlines make for more significant results. When we aim to get things done on the deadlines of others, we wait until the last minute and rush our work. Yet when we set unrealistic goals for ourselves, we now work under the stress of our own deadlines—now we have entered the realm of the productive.

Productive people create time constraints for themselves to take advantage of our innate tendency to use all the time we leave to complete a task(s).

Georgetown Professor Cal Newport, discusses this in his book Deep Work. He recommends we leverage our time by using a Fixed-Schedule Productivity technique. It’s essentially Parkinson law put into effect.

Dr. Newport uses a fixed-schedule productivity in his own life. While working towards becoming a tenured professor, Cal never works past 5 during the weekdays. Because of this, he needed to prioritize what he would be doing each day.

Cal didn’t have time to do 50 things, but he could certainly get 2 or 3 things done. By only completing 2 or 3 things each day for weeks and weeks, the end results are a substantial amount of progress.

Not only does fixed-schedule productivity get more done, you get so much free time! So I recommend you try it out. I like to use a calendar template—any day to day calendar will do—and build my week every Sunday. That makes it so I am flexible yet not flimsy with my time.

Stop being busy. Start being productive

Remove the word busy from your vocabulary.

If you have to use the word busy you are not focused.

When a moment arises where you think you are too busy for something, ask yourself if what you’re doing is in alignment with the big win of the day or part of your priorities.

Saying no does not have to mean you are too busy, saying no can mean you have priorities.

Be proud of your drive to stay focused; show it off. Rather than sticking to the busy card; it’s a cop out answer and only makes you look and perform poorly to others and yourself.

I hope that after reading this you see the difference between busy and productive, and start to remove all the busy from your life to make space for all the amazing things you are capable of doing.


For more content on developing your life to your maximum potential, look no further than Forces of Habit. Here I talk more about becoming more intentional with your time—and eventually your life.

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Moonwalking with Einstein by Joshua Foer

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Moonwalking with Einstein: The Art and Science of Remembering Everything by Joshua Foer

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The Essence

Journalist Joshua Foer chunks the art of memory into a palatable narrative discussing his journey from memory chump to US memory champion. Memory isn’t a trait that we are natural endowed with, it is a skill that we all have the ability to acquire and cultivate. If we emulate how mental athletes have acquired the art of memorizing—taking advantage of spacial memory—nothing limits our capacities to develop memory skills.

Moonwalking with Einstein Summary Journal Entry:

This is my book summary of Moonwalking with Einstein. My notes are a reflection of the journal write up above. Written informally, the notes contain a mesh of quotes and my own thoughts on the book. The Journal write up also includes important messages and crucial passages from the book.

  • "This book is about the year I spent trying to train my memory, and also trying to train my brain to understand it—its inner working, its natural deficiencies, its hidden potential. It’s all about how I learned firsthand that our memories are indeed improvable, within limits, and that the skills of Ed and Lukas [people introduced in the book] can indeed be tapped by all of us. It’s also the scientific study of expertise, and how researchers who study memory champions have discovered general principles of skill acquisition—secrets to improving just about everything—from how mental athletes train their brains…”
  • To think is to forget
  • Memorizing is a skill that can be learned: We all have remarkable capacities asleep in us. If only we bothered ourselves to awaken them
  • “If something is going to be made memorable, it has to be dwelled upon, repeated.”
  • Rhetoica as Hernnnium = Memory Bible. It’s interesting to see how applicable such an old text is in harnessing the raw power of our abilities to recall information effectively.
  • Attention is the prerequisite to remembering. To remember we must first learn to properly attend to things. Learning to leverage our attention will provide us with the skills properly use memory tactics.
  • How we perceive the world and how we act in it are products of how and what we remember. We’re all just a bundle of habits shaped by our conscious and unconscious memories.
  • The general idea with most memory techniques is to change whatever boring thing is being inputted into your memory into something that is so colorful, so exciting, and so different from anything wou've seen before that you can’t possibly forget it.
  • We must consciously convert information we are memorizing into images, distributing those images along familiar spatial journeys.
  • Photographic memory is a detestable myth. No scientific study can prove that anyone has some innate capacities to somehow recall things in the same expansiveness of a photograph. While descriptively people have found that the images in their head are best articulated using photos as an analogy, it isn’t that really photographic memory.
  • The nonlinear associative nature of our brains makes it impossible for us to consciously search our memories in an orderly way.
  • AVOID THE OK PLATEAU: We need to use deliberate practice to improve. Becoming aware of failure and learning from those mistakes is one principle to consider to practice deliberately. Others include focusing on the technique, staying goal oriented, and constant feedback of immediate or expert sources.
  • What one chooses to memorize helps shape one’s character. It’s like what we own constitutes who we are. What is most valuable in our lives are the things we obsess over in one form or another. It’s interesting to think about how we can then leverage these obsessions.
  • Monotony collapses time; novelty unfolds it.
  • Experts see the world differently. Due to practice, experts are able to better observe the forest of a domain rather than only recognize tons of trees.
  • What we call expertise is really just vast amounts of knowledge, pattern-based retrieval, and planning mechanisms acquired over many years of experience in the associative domain. In other words, a great memory isn’t just a by-product of expertise; it is the essence of expertise.
  • The more, we remember, the better we are at processing the world. And the better we are at processing the world, the more we can remember about it.
  • Use Associations: Turn Bakers into Bakers, Foers into fours, and Reagans into Ray guns.
  • It is all about the technique and understanding how memory works. Anyone could really do it.
  • When framing images, it helps to have a dirty mind.

Reading Recommendations

If you liked what you saw. Here are 3 titles that I recommend based on what was discussed in Moonwalking with Einstein.

  1. A Mind for Numbers: How to Excel at Math and Science by Barbara Oakley
  2. Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise by Anders Ericsson
  3. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport

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Respecting the Plan: Develop Planning Parsimony

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Respecting the Plan: Develop Planning Parsimony

The last few day have been a challenge.

I have been traveling to Delhi, India for over 24 hours—from Philadelphia Pennsylvania to New York, to Kiev Ukriane to New Delhi. It has certainly been a journey. I am excited to have arrived in India and have spent my first day in the city of New Delhi from wandering street corners to experiencing my first tuk tuk with someone I only met today.

We walked along the allies of Delhi, navigating a labyrinth of culture and entrepreneur spirit—I have never been asked to buy something so many times.

But that was never the plan.

When I arrived, I had planned to sleep and write a full Forces of Habit blog post on my initial thoughts upon arriving. Yet from the moment I entered the hostel, adventure has grabbed my attention, making my plan to write crumble.

I was upset.

I thought that not writing would be the end of the whole site. No one would read someone who posts infrequently, It was over.

But none of those thoughts where really helpful in making time to write, nor were they useful in driving me to sit down and get started in my exhsued state—so why do they arise anyway?

 "if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail" -Maslow

I was disrespecting the plan.

Part of intentionally living means understanding that not every mental tool we have at our disposal for thinking about a given problem is always applicable. I really wanted to rely on planning, so much so that my thoughts attached on to my expected outcome—the planned one—as the only one. But leaving space for only one future is ignorant and risky—I set myself up to be upset if I attach to only one possible future.

I know what you’re thinking, ‘alright, no more planning then right?’; not exactly.

Planning is such a valuable tool! We could never just throw the whole idea of forward think out of the window. But as the quote above accurately examines, the tool—the hammer—is not one size fits all. WE mustn’t make planning the only way we engage with life— life isn’t just another box full of nails.

So it isn’t planning per se, it’s our relationships with the ideas we create; that is where we start to disrespect the plan.

"I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable."-Dwight Eisenhower

To start respecting the plan we need to stop obsessively applying the tool to every morsel of our days. Plans aren’t meant to always go according to themselves; that’s just not in the design of how a plan is to function. Instead of constantly relying on the plan as a metric for daily achievement, respect the beauty of what the plan has to offer by using it sparingly and simple—practice Planning Parsimony.

Planning Parsimony is our greatest tool for respecting the plan.

Here’s an example. A fellow traveler and I had just arrived to the city and where near obsessed about having access to cellular data to navigate the city of New Delhi—our intentions were deeply rooted in planning.

However, my intentions for data would have been to follow the map eyes glued, leaving no room for error or spontaneity—consider the plan disrespected. I can imagine feeling devastated as the maps didn’t help, feeling helpless because the only thing I knew and would accept was a future that matched my plan.

My friend however saw the device as comfort for the uncertainty that may arise as she and I attempted to wander New Delhi with little to no directions. In those moments she helped create this idea of planning parsimoniously, only for the sake of some general guideline that may help excite adventure.

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Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath

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Made to Stick:  Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip and Dan Heath

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Made to Stick helps us understand why we are better at remembering some ideas over others. Not only that, the Heath brothers also provide us with the tools to make our own ideas stickier. Much of what we know suffers from the curse that only knowing it can cause; we are trapped in our own understanding. By taking caution against the curse of knowledge and applying the SUCCES to our ideas, we all can share ideas that will resonate across time.

Made to Stick Summary Journal Entry:

This is my book summary of Made to Stick: Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die by Chip and Dan Heath. My notes are a reflection of the journal write up above. Written informally, the notes contain a mesh of quotes and my own thoughts on the book. The Journal write up also includes important messages and crucial passages from the book.

  • The curse of knowledge: Once we know something we find it hard to imagine what it was like not to know it.
  • “It’s hard to be a tapper”: Sharing knowledge isn’t as easy as it seems. The study done in the 1990’s showed that only 1/40 students could rely a song via tapping the rhythm out. This wonderful study presented in the book discuss how difficult it actually is to share a message due to our tendencies to share as though we are explaining it ourselves.
  • Your ideas are sticky if they are understood and remembered and have a lasting impact.
  • ANYONE with the right insight and the right message can make an idea stick.
  • DO NOT focus on the presentation more than the message.
  • What Sticks? S.U.C.C.E.S
  1.    Simple
  2.    Unexpected
  3.    Concrete
  4.    Credible
  5.    Emotional
  6.    Stories

SIMPLE

  • Find the Core
  • It is about elegance and prioritization, not dumbing down the message.
  • Don’t bury the lead
  • Schemas enable profound simplicity
  • A Great way to avoid useless accuracy, and to dodge the Curse of Knowledge us to use analogies. Analogies derive their power from schemas, models that represent something more comprehensive in a diminutive manner.

UNEXPECTED

  • Get Attention: Surprise
  • If you want your ideas to be stickier, you’ve got to break someone’s guessing machine and then fix it. We tend to go on autopilot. We observe the same type of stuff all the time and have these models for attributing things with one another. But if we can get an idea to slightly trick our common associations, then the audience’s attention is ours for the taking. Said another way, the best way to get peoples attention is the break their existing schemas directly.
  • How do we use the attention we just grabbed? Make it interesting. Use the Gap Theory of Curiosity: As we gain information we are more likely to focus on what we don’t know.

CONCRETE

  • Help people understand and remember.
  • Don’t dumb things down, find a universal language.
  • Students are wisely trying to find a way to break up a big, abstract goal into smaller, more concrete subgoals.
  • If you can examine something with your senses
  • Novices crave concreteness.
  • Abstraction demands some concrete foundation .trying to teach an abstract principle without a concrete foundation like trying to start a house by building a roof in the air.
  • Velcro Theory of memory: The more hooks an ideas has, the better it will cling to memory

CREDIBLE

  • Help people Believe.
  • External Credibility: Authority and Anti-authority. It helps to have an external entity to point your message at that acts as a form of validity for the ideas. As in Robert Cialdini’s book Influence, Authority is a stronger weapon for persuading an audience.
  • Internal Credibility: things within your message itself that strengthen its credit.
  1.    Use convincing details
  2.    Make statistics accessible: make the numbers mean something
  3.    Find an example that passes the Sinatra test: If it X here then it can X anywhere!
  4.    Use testable credentials
  • Meaningful associations are rooted in human context; the more relatable to our own conditions as humans the better.

EMOTIONAL

  • Make people care
  • Feelings inspire people to act.
  • Mother Teresa principle: If I look at the one, I will act. If we can make our ideas more intimately related to a single rather then a collective it appeals more to our emotions. So when stating a case that may be related to a large sec, you may be better off to talk more intimately about a single person harmed by the case.
  • Use the power of association.
  • Appeal to self-interest (the specific interest of the audience rather than a general inventive)
  • Appeal of identity
  • It’s the attitude that makes the differences
  • Empathy emerges from the particular rather than the pattern.

STORIES

  • Get people to act.
  • Stories are models for life; flight simulations for reality.
  • Tell people how to act (hand them the simulations).
  • Give people energy to act (Inspire them).
  • Simulating past event is much more helpful than simulating future outcomes. This reminds me of the effects of a good war story on the moral of the troops. This helps manage emotions.
  • We need the story. While it is easy to skip right to the tips and tricks, the story lessens us up to the ideas within the main message.
  • Telling stories with visible goals and barriers shift the audience into problem-solving mode thereby keeping them engaged.
  • SUCCES will help people do numerous things pertaining to our ideas. It helps people
  1.    Pay attention
  2.    Understand and remember
  3.    Believe and agree
  4.    Care
  5.    Take Action
  • Core Idea Glasses: You do not need a natural creative genius to cook up a great idea. The world will always produce more great ideas than any single individual even the most creative one. Think of ideas as spotted rather than created. If you’re a great spotter, you’ll always trump a great creator.

Reading Recommendations

If you liked what you saw. Here are 3 titles that I recommend based on what discussed in Made to Stick.

1. Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath

2. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

3. The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference by Malcolm Gladwell

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Nomad Mindset: Mentally Preparing for Travel

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Nomad Mindset: Mentally Preparing for Travel.

Podcasts, books, blogs, and of course the cherished advice of travelers I have met thus far have all had commonalities.; they warned me of the great travel fallacy.

This fallacy holds that changing your backdrop will somehow change you has a person.

This could not be any more wrong.

For leaving an environment does not solely alter the entirety of your being. You cannot stop being the habit patterns and associations you have embraced for years just by packing up and leaving—there is no easy way to escape yourself.

Change is hard. Yet most of the personal transformation research indicates that it’s possible from any age so long as we are willing to intentionally work on making a change within ourselves.

It’s mental.

If you are a long time reader, you won’t be surprised that it isn’t the gear, destination, or even the people that will have the greatest impact during travel—it’s the mindset we have when approaching each moment. For our perception is drastically modified by the mental framework we embrace in our daily lives.

Like much of how we live, preparing for travel has only been a twist on the same story. Here are a few lessons I have taken to mentally prepare myself for an up and coming trip to Asia. Cultivating a travel mindset has the potential to make your excursion the next great catalyst for change in your life. I hope these are valuable to you, as they have been profound in easing any doubts I have had while mentally preparing for travel.

 

Listening to Self

Many times while preparing for my backpacking trip I have been called mad, dumb, and crazy for deciding to go. People will tell me how dangerous it is, how I’ll die never to return, or how it is unstainable given the area of the world I will be staying.

Though I have also been given more lighthearted advice. I’ve been told to go see this and go try that. Told I need to bring this many pairs of underwear, and bring books that can inspire others.

But of all the things brought to my attention, nothing matches the number of times I have been asked the dreaded questions of criticism.

“Oh, how long do you plan on doing this?”

“What’s your plan after?”

“How will you sustain yourself with no job?”

Turn off the noise.

Ultimately everyone will have something to say about your travels. Given the broad range of opinions, it’s a waste to take it all seriously.

It’s up to you to stop listening. You suffocate from information overload and only fill yourself with doubt if you consider what the world says above your own ideals.

Try listening to yourself.

You are constantly becoming someone, know who that someone is and access if the information you are being given helps or harms the cultivation of that self. This way you can gratefully hear everyone out, but funnel out anything that is not of any value.

 

Strong Daily Habits

Time on the road is uncertain. Many things will change—including yourself—so chose to have a say in what types of self you are becoming.

For me, I have always tried my best to stick to my top 5 habits every day. These are the time-tested ways I choose to stay limber for the ever-changing life landscape.

With all the downtime available while traveling having a routine of some kind will help you ensure you are taking care of yourself on the road.

If you’re unsure what type of daily habit to start, I’m a big fan of keeping a journal and highly recommend you pick up journaling. I talk a lot about the practical benefits journaling in my Journaling for Growth series.

Journaling for Growth series.

Commit: Make it Real

Ideas are great. But they are only the beginning. An idea lives and dies in ether if you are not willing to act on it.

Part of preparing for travel is incrementally making your ideas a reality—you gotta make it real.

That can mean announcing to your loved one your plans to leave, buying the plane ticket, throwing out all your unnecessary belongings, putting in your two weeks at work, or any number of external actions that solidify what’s going on in your head.

When you choose to do something like travel you must be continuously making it a reality. Otherwise, it is easy to overtime consume yourself with doubt. The idea will become ‘a poor investment’ or ‘not the right time’. The opportunity cost will always sway you away from travel.

Just remember there is more money to be made and opportunities to be had and if you limit yourself by keeping your ideas to yourself—hidden from reality—they will cease to ever come to fruition.

 

Hold On Loosely to Expectations

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The world is never what it seems

We all have an internal depiction that comes to mind when we think of the places we will soon visit. It might be this wonderful place that if flooded with indigenous peoples with no technology, or a dangerous war zone struck by poverty.

Dispose of your expectations.

Ideas of how to feel in the future only soil what is to come. This is why I find the question “Are you excited?” so challenging. I just don’t know. I have no idea what to feel about a place I have not yet experienced. Sure I can do research and prepare, but that does not mean I know my future feelings.

Instead of formulating an imaginary land to access how you are supposable going to feel, just be open-minded to anything that can arise. Yes, villagers may have cell-phones and not every county that is developing has people living in cardboard boxes.

 

Consider Every Day an Opportunity

While traveling you are still susceptible getting sick.

The weather may be dreary.

Loneliness may arise.

Any number of things have the potential to ruin your mood and call for you to hide away.

Make every day the best day of your life.

No matter the external circumstance, we have the choice to make today a day of adventure. Every day can be filled with profound experiences if you are willing to change your mindset about what you believe to be happening. Sure we can view all those things above as negative, but we can also harness those times as means for becoming our greatest selves.

My friends and I once took a road trip from Pennsylvania to California. At our first big stop in Nashville it was raining. Where we upset? Sure, but it only took a microsecond for us to seize the opportunity to go take some cool rain pictures and make this stop the best stop it could be.

Remember that today is never a lost cause. You can change the framework of how you are perceiving the day and transform it into another opportunity for intentional living.

If you would like to check out the trip, my best friend vlogged the whole thing—I highly recommend you go check it out.

 

Accept Downtime for What It Is

Influence from my given society has hit me hard. It’s bred a sense that any free moment ought to be used to somehow advance me towards a successful life; I have been Americanized.

I feel anxious in moments of rest. Making even sleeping difficult, thoughts arise that claim I am wasting time and could be more effective at managing my life.

But this need not be the way we live, nor should it be considered the successful option.

In truth, it is more than often crippling.

The self-talk that arises when I sit idling between tasks is numbing, and it only increases in frequency as I allow myself to be still.

Training myself to find purpose in nothing is by far the hardest thing I have had to deal with. I work hard, challenge myself, yet the trial of accepting nothingness and allowing time to run along as I sit in stillness is physically painful for me.

Travel has qualities that cultivate stillness.

As I wait for flights or busses, wander the cities and villages, or eat alone in solitude, I am now forced to accept the downtime for what it is. These experiences do not have to become dressed up versions of themselves, for the sensory details that I have the opportunity to observe are so vivid that I can be struck by their presence alone.

Those are the lessons I have gathered in mentally preparing for travel. What are you doing to intentionally prep yourself for travel? I’d love to hear what you guys think are the most important things to consider.


My Motto: Today is the best day of my life

I treat every day as the best day of my life because no matter the praise, disappointment, obstacles, or success I know that I am doing everything that is in my control to live to the standards of my greatest self.

How? It all starts with my 5 habits. Find out more here.

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I Wear the Black Hat by Chuck Klosterman

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I Wear the Black Hat: Grappling with Villains (Real and Imagined) by Chuck Klosterman

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Cultural critic Chuck Klosterman addresses the veil of ignorance surrounding how people affect society. Using our unintuitive fascination with villainy, Chuck picks apart how we sway towards specific categorical qualities when distinguishing good and evil. He does so by using famous figures all throughout history—mostly modern—that we may have considered ‘evil’ and provides a perspective of the theme in a new light—one less bias by status quo. What’s good and bad is not as clear as we tend to make it. When we start thinking more like the person in the black hat, we start to see they aren’t as bad as it seems.

I Wear the Black Hat Summary Journal Entry:

This is my book summary of I Wear the Black Hat: Grappling with Villains by Chuck Klosterman. My notes are a reflection of the journal write up above. Written informally, the notes contain a mesh of quotes and my own thoughts on the book. The Journal write up also includes important messages and crucial passages from the book.

  • America is a look-based superficial society.
  • The medium is far more problematic than the message: how we view a piece of information, how it is distributed, drastically impacts our perception far before the actual substance of the matter is even considered.
  • The villain is the person who knows the most but cares the least.
  • Physical attraction alters our perception of someone whether we choose to accept it or not. “The way people look is so central to how we live that we’ve managed to collectively underrate it.”
  • Progressives, over time, are always the winners.
  • Favorite Quote: “I have slowly come to believe that overcoming this self-focused worldview is impossible, and that life can be experienced only through an imaginary mirror that allows us to occupy the center of a story no one is telling.”
  • The modern has been raised to personalize everything. No matter how irrelevant to their life, they obsessively personalize everything they encounter and absorb it as somehow related to their life experience.
  • “If you want to satirize the conditions of a society, going after the apex of the pyramid is a waste of time. You need to attack the bottom”.
  • Fiction is a type of one-way. We appreciate the detestable things when they are ‘fake’—not actually occurring to anyone. Yet, why do people then only support certain desirable things if they remain unreal? Such a double standard of application is confusing, yet interesting.
  • Refrain from drawing attention towards a collapse. Those who realize public remarks are going dreadfully and then apologize or draw attention to its occurrence are failing to realize perspective. Things have only fallen apart in your own mind and you have no reason to publicizes the matter other than to solidify its now fruition.
  • People consumed by lust make NO decisions… They just react—it is neither emotional nor intellectual. It is physical and unmanageable (at least at the time of the action).
  • Emotion is the intangible drug that passive audiences crave; we immerse ourselves in fictional drama to feel something we want (or miss) from real life.
  • Writing about others is really a form of writing about oneself. I feel Chuck mentioned this because a lot of the villainy he mentions is a representation of how he himself has protruded the standards of right and wrong.
  • We create what we want. Necessity is no longer. When we run out of things to need, we fill the gaps with our desires. Nothing new is ever created out of necessity, we only create what we want.

Reading Recommendations

If you liked what you saw. Here are 3 titles that I recommend based on what discussed in I Wear the Black Hat.

1. Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs: A Low Culture Manifesto by Chuck Klosterman

2. Killing Yourself to Live: 85% of a True Story by Chuck Klosterman

3. But What If We're Wrong?: Thinking About the Present As If It Were the Past by Chuck Klosterman

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Rejection: 3 Lessons From My Graduate Application Process

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Rejection: 3 Lessons From My Graduate Application Process

In the last few months, I have experienced one of the largest upsets in my plan for building the skills needed to make a difference in this world.

But before we can get to that it is important that you know what keeps me up at night.

I want to study decision sciences. Developing a stronger empirical understanding of how people make choices and using that information to structure decision environments is my thing. I think we can take advantage of human psychology because a stronger foundation based on what we actually are- human- can only strengthen the systems we use to assisting those in need.

I am enamored by it all. So after graduating undergraduate, I ventured into the land of Graduate studies; GRE, application essays, references, research programs, etc. I wanted to find a new home, one that would provide even better opportunities to meet with top performers in their fields; I wanted safety from the uncertainty that was inevitable now that my time had run out at Shippensburg University.

For Fall 2018 I applied to 6 graduate schools, all of which were Ph.D. programs in psychology.

But I failed.

I was rejected from every single school on the merits of a large and exemplary application pool.
I was not the one.

Though all was not lost. I find that the experience still ended up being a powerful tool for my future as a growing expert in psychology and continues to be a reference for what I need to remember in becoming my greatest self.

Here are the 3 lessons from my graduate application process. My hopes are that you will heed these lessons for any of your long-term plans.

Overconfidence

I had confidence.

I had just finished undergrad in three years, jamming the experience with clubs, conferences, and research. I ended finishing school Summa Cum Laude, and highly recommend by professors for a career in academics.

While this is great and all, I allowed these allocations to blind me from the likelihood of failure. So, I applied to only the best schools, schools I thought deserved me, someone, that I knew could do anything because of my work ethic and enthusiasm.

But I was wrong.

I saw myself as a statically anomaly when in reality I was just another person with the same 3-9% chance of acceptance.

Overconfidence took over. 

Yet without the rejection, I’m not so sure if I would have been able to see that with the same respect that I do now. It’s only through reevaluating my own significance was I able to see that I was overshooting it. I was betting against the math.

I now know to warrant my risks with some type of security. It would have been easy to apply to master’s programs around in my field of study, but I only saw what I wanted as a potential reality and closed off the idea that anything else was even an option.

Planning

Plans are nothing; planning is everything. - Dwight D. Eisenhower

Building on top of my overconfidence, I proceeded to think about only futures that included graduate studies as the next plan. But when I got the news, I was served with a big bowl of uncertainty with a side of 'you-screwed-yourself'—or at least these were my initial thoughts.

We all need a plan.

Yet nothing about a plan states that it ought to go according to its outline. Its only after having my big plan fall apart was I able to embrace planning for very different futures and not just slight variations on the same thing.

Plans for the future now look nothing alike. I need to be fluid. Fit and able to move into any future so long as I remember my ultimate vision. When we become more accepting of a plans ability to fail, it’s easier to then build hundreds of outlines for what is to come. These models for addressing plan permanence detach us from any set expectations while ensuring we are always moving towards our individual higher purpose.

Uncertainty

I was scared.

I was afraid of what a future looked like, so attaching to yet another institution was my way of numbing the sensations that I felt about the unknown. But as that plan quickly started to go sour, it became inevitable that I would have to face uncertainty. Yet instead of allowing the void to consume me for the worse, I fell forward and accepted all that the unknown had to offer.

You gotta let go and let it happen.

As I pack for my 2-month backpacking excursion to India in a few days, I’ll continue to build my presence as a digital influencer and prepare for another round of applications. Maybe I’ll get my Ph.D., maybe I’ll work for the peace corps, or maybe I’ll move to California. It makes no difference. No longer am I going to attach to any specific outcome, because I know how things can change. What’s most important is that my aim to live a life full of purpose—one that shares what I have learned about the world with others—is steadfast.

This experience has taught me the profound benefits of the inevitable life rejection. Rejection is no indicator of our capabilities to grow, it’s a messenger who is helping guide us to find what we’re missing. Just as I learned the 3-powerful lesson above only because of the rejection, I hope that your intentional life is full of rejections that inspire you to change for growth.


My Motto: Today is the best day of my life

I treat every day as the best day of my life because no matter the praise, disappointment, obstacles, or success I know that I am doing everything that is in my control to live to the standards of my greatest self.

How? It all starts with my 5 habits. Find out more here.